There are a number of bible scriptures on marriage that we can read to get the real understanding on what the Most High intended marriage to be for. Today we are sold the the whole “white wedding” and true “love” scenario, then we leave it to a priest or a so called state official to marry us.
So let us see what the Most High intended by starting with the First Marriage, with Adam and Eve.
18And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him……
22And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
So from the beginning we see that woman was created to be a help to man in their union together. A union which makes them one in thought and mind, as it says “one in flesh”.
So this is the theme of marriage in the eyes of the Father, that a male and female come together, with one mind i.e. to keep the fathers commandments.
We see the same thing being said by our Saviour Yahusha too…
6But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
7For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
The idea of marriage was for two people to be together for ever, there was never great emphasis on a wedding ceremony, it was more about the relationship that a married couple are supposed to have as part of their walk with the Most High.
Lets look at some other bible scriptures on marriage so we can get an understanding on how men and women in the faith were joined in marriage. If we look at the book of Tobit in the Apocrypha
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The scriptures support a man going to the father to ask for his daughters hand in marriage.
When Tobias asked to marry Raguel’s daughter Sarah he was asked by Raguel, who his father was. This let’s us know that reputations were very important according to the law of God.
Today this type of thing is literally unheard of (but can still be considered), because Israel have been scattered and people in general don’t always have strong family units, although some do. The point is finding out who you’re marrying by checking out their family background can be a useful.
Tobias asking Raguel for his daughter Sarah before going ahead and marrying her is also a law of Moses (from God).
After Tobias asks for Sarah’s hand in marriage Raguel accepts shortly after, acknowledging Tobias to be from a good family.
9 So he communicated the proposal to Raguel. And Raguel said to Tobias, “Eat, drink, and be merry;
10 for it is your right to take my child. But let me explain the true situation to you.
11 I have given my daughter to seven husbands, and when each came to her he died in the night. But for the present be merry.” And Tobias said, “I will eat nothing here until you make a binding agreement with me.”
12 So Raguel said, “Take her right now, in accordance with the law. You are her relative, and she is yours. The merciful God will guide you both for the best.”
13 Then he called his daughter Sarah, and taking her by the hand he gave her to Tobias to be his wife, saying, “Here she is; take her according to the law of Moses, and take her with you to your father.” And he blessed them.
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14 Next he called his wife Edna, and took a scroll and wrote out the contract; and they set their seals to it.
We can see that after Tobias’ proposal to marry Sarah is accepted a contract is written out on a scroll (paper document). This gives us an example of marriage and how it is to be conducted.
4 And after that they were both shut in together, Tobias rose out of the bed, and said, Sister, arise, and let us pray that God would have pity on us.
5 Then began Tobias to say, Blessed art thou, O God of our fathers, and blessed is thy holy and glorious name for ever; let the heavens bless thee, and all thy creatures.
6 Thou madest Adam, and gavest him Eve his wife for an helper and stay: of them came mankind: thou hast said, It is not good that man should be alone; let us make unto him an aid like unto himself.
7 And now, O Lord, I take not this my sister for lush but uprightly: therefore mercifully ordain that we may become aged together.
8 And she said with him, Amen.
The bible scriptures on marriage here, give us an actual insight as to the intent of each party when partaking in marriage. Tobit who was an Israelite is seen here praying to the Most High himself, before him and his wife are joined in marriage.
He also makes sure to point out in his pray that he was not taking his wife for sex, but so that they could “mercifully ordain that we may become aged together.” This shows that Tobit understood that marriage is something that required the right amount of work by both parties if it is to last.
The prayer is concluded and his wife agrees, by saying Amen (so be it). It is also worth pointing out that Tobit refers back to the first marriage, with Adam and Eve and the benefits of being married when serving the Most High.
So we can see what the Fathers intent for Marriage is i.e. a life time union, and the keeping of his commandments together. But we can also ask other questions such as…
What’s the role of man and woman in marriage?
Do we have to get married?
Can we get divorced?
Lets look at what the bible scriptures on marriage say, for this, we can look at what the Apostle Paul had to say.
Lets start with the roles of man and woman in marriage…
1 Corinthians 11:3
3But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
So the man is the head of the woman, but it’s important to remember the head of man is the Messiah, so if a man is not keeping the commandments, it’s a woman’s job to correct him, if she can, but if she can’t or vice versa they should be kept regardless of the other party.
1 Corinthians 7:1-11
1Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
If you take a look at 1 Corinthians 7, you will see some guide lines that Paul suggested for married couples (1 Corinthians 7:1-6) and some that he was commanded to tell his congregation. If it was up to Paul he would advise people not to marry (1 Corinthians 7:7-9).
More on commands that Paul got from the Father are that he would prefer that once married couples shouldn’t separate, as we read in Genesis, but if they do, the wife should get back with her husband and the husband should always have his arms open for his wife (1 Corinthians 7:10,11).
So the bible scriptures on marriage let us know that two were joined with a simple pray (the wedding vows) and written agreement by both male and female before anything else took place.
As we are living in the end times many have cohabited or are sexually active without any actual marriage. In such cases sincere believers should immediately end such relationships and attempt to marry. If you can’t marry, then just end such relationships and concentrate on serving the Father until such time you are ready to have a relationship that is Right in the Fathers eyes.
Remember when we begin to believe we become new creatures so, your past sins will not be held against you, but they also shouldn’t be continued or repeat, as soon as you are made known of the truth!
So the key thing to remember is that a marriage that is not built on the right foundation always has the possibility of failure, it is the job of the male and female to make that commitment to the Father. There should also be some type of written document, otherwise it will be impossible to prove that the marriage actually exists.
Today marriages are conducted where there is a legal document, and this is the same practice that is found in the scriptures. There is no doubt the marriage documents today are inspired by the bible.
Although I don’t agree with all the principles in the modern day churches, especially those that contravene the scriptures, such as, wedding rings, engagement rings, homosexual priest etc. it is truly obvious that God has inspired the documents (contracts) for the marriage, but this doesn’t mean we should conduct traditional marriage ceremonies as believers..
When getting marriage today, I would advise the two parties to use the government to get a legal document of the marriage but not to go through the traditional church wedding ceremony, as this is usually mixed in with so many different ungodly traditions.
All that is required is a binding document with witnesses that shows proof of the marriage. It is possible to have a ceremony outside the traditional church ceremony. This doesn’t rule out using a church for your wedding, but I don’t advocate using a priest, or a wedding ring etc.
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